Sexless relationship or dry spell? It's all in the eye of the beholder
expert Hayley Quinn tells us, there’s no one-size-fits-all for the amount of times people should be having sex with their partner.
‘Some people consider a relationship sexless if they haven’t been intimate with their partner for the past month,’ she says, ‘whereas for others it can be when one partner explicitly tells the other they no longer want to have sex with them. ‘Before judging any type of relationship, it’s important to remember that there are lots of reasons why one, or both partners, may no longer want sex within their relationship.
‘From health issues, to older age, to a loss of desire, to identifying as asexual, or recognising they have a different sexuality.’ There’s also just the grind of life at play with ‘ruts’ and ‘dry spells’ for couples in long-term relationships – over anything from a new baby to work stress – ‘incredibly common’.As for what the science says, it seems there’s technically an optimum amount of times per week for people to do it – but whether that’s right for you is another thing., which had over 30,000 participants, found people’s happiness levels associated with sex plateaued when they did it once a week.